When to bite your tongue (and a commonly believed lie revealed)
Amy McLaren
Monday, February 04, 2019

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  1. A lost art?
    20 Feb, 2019
    A lost art?
    “How do you know I love you?” asks Josh, as we hug each other in relief once the kids are in bed for the night. “Because you give me hugs. And when I buy plants, you plant them for me,” I reply. And after a pause: “How do you know I love you?” “You do my washing. And you don’t make a fuss when I go running when we could be having family time. You’re fine if I make time to do other things that are important to me.” Have a think about the last time you asked your spouse  / fiance(e) a question
  2. Marriage Without Compromise
    19 Feb, 2015
    How to have a marriage without compromise
    When people say marriage is all about compromise, I cringe. This word comes with such negative connotations. It just adds to the negative myths people throw at marriage. What if couples are compromising because maybe they haven’t been properly educated on how to have an argument? Rather than thinking about issues as arguments, I think of them as problem solving opportunities. If we find ourselves getting continually frustrated with one another, we just take that as a sign that there is something
  3. 04 Feb, 2015
    What to Expect: The First Two Years of Marriage
    We’ve been talking to a few couples that are all within their first two years of marriage. There’s a myth that the first two years are the “honeymoon period” and that after that, things go speedily downhill. It’s quite clear to me, the people who identify with that myth are couples who ignore the things that come up in those first two years, pretend everything is hunky dory, and after two years get tired of holding a mirage and get irritable. On the contrary, we’re finding that the couples we